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Addicted to Distraction

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I’ve been thinking quite a lot lately about the nature of addiction. About what we get addicted to & why we get addicted to it.

I have been a smoker & I used to drink Coke – both addictions. Both things that are considered to be an addiction as such. An addiction to a substance.

But what about all the other stuff?

Have you ever considered that a behavior can be an addiction? Or even an emotion could be an addiction?

Isn’t it more about the need for something? The need to maybe cover up something? The need to possibly not face our emotions?

For the past few months I have been going through a pretty major transformation. This last weekend was incredibly difficult, challenging & revealed to me some things.

I do this thing to cover up my feelings of inadequacy, loneliness, lack of self worth. I set up time with people to do stuff, or even on my own, to distract. I also have a bit of an addiction to over thinking.

So what do you do when plans get changed, people have other things that take precedence & all your plans to actually help yourself through a situation fail? When you recognize you actually need help & maybe making arrangements to do something with people is a way of asking for it without asking for it?

You are left to rely on yourself, as I was. And I am finding this happening more & more lately. Its like the Universe is saying to me, “Deal with this alone.” And sometimes, like this weekend, I just don’t have the energy or strength to deal with it alone. I have felt that strength to do it alone has been less than easy to maintain.

I have no solutions here, no magic potions, no ground breaking way through.

I guess I’m just wondering how many of us go through this? How many of us do all we can to help ourselves, only to find those things not working, or changing. And then not knowing what to do.

In my case, I’ve been looking outside of myself for help. There is my addiction to distraction. But maybe there is also a fine line between finding the strength from within to help yourself & recognizing when you do actually need some help, maybe just someone to listen, someone to be there to cry on their shoulder, someone to go to a playground with & play on the swings, to be silly.

Maybe, there are times when I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do.

So when is distraction too much distraction? Distraction has been great for me to stop over thinking. But I guess as has been shown to me this weekend, when I rely on things or people outside of me to help me through too much, it can become more of an addiction.

The irony is, I work with addictions in my Kinesiology work. So maybe this is all being shown to me so that I can have more of an understanding about the root causes of an addiction, and help my clients with their addictions on a more in depth level.

Often addictions to substances cover up other addictive behaviors. So in my case take away the addiction to smoking & drinking coke – which took a lot of work to get through, & the behavior is still there.

Addictions are ways to avoid unacceptable feelings. We can become driven by them. Our life is no longer a conscious choice. Our freedom is absent.

Addictive behaviors are mood altering – whether its food, drugs, alcohol or in my case distraction, it is mood altering. It helps manage my feelings.

The life damaging aspects to an addiction or compulsion:

  • It causes personal dysfunction
  • It blocks you from getting your needs met through your own human powers
  • It takes up all your energy
  • Your choices are narrowed
  • Your freedom is lost
  • Your will becomes disabled
  • You become driven to the addiction/ compulsion
  • Your life is powerless & unmanageable

Kinesiology can help you work through these issues in the right priority, at the right time, in a gentle way to restore harmony to the soul.

The focus with Kinseiology is to bring back choice, rather than having a reaction to a situation, responding to it with choice & freedom. There is a reason we call a Kinesiology session a balance. Because it is about finding balance.

John Bradshaw, author of “The Family” states that in the family of an alcoholic,  everyone is driven by the distress of not having their needs met.

So do you think that maybe any addiction is about the distress of not having your needs met?

So as I have done this past weekend, ask yourself, “If I was free of this addiction/ compulsion what would I do?”

Is there anything you are trying to stop yourself from feeling? What are you using to stop the feelings? Is it cigarettes, alcohol, distraction, constant drama in your life, an emotion like anger?

Do you want freedom & choice? Do you want to feel like you have the power to help yourself?

Distraction has been an enormous help for me, but it has gotten to the point where I am relying on it to get me through. That is the recognition for me that it has become unhealthy. It helped me survive, but now it has become something that I am allowing to block my choices & sense of freedom. I am putting all of my sense of self worth into these distractions.

The behavior, the distraction, as I have realized, is the desire for connection, to belong. So whilst I have cleared what I would call the surface level behaviors – the smoking & drinking coke, I still have some work to do in these areas, to maintain a sense of connection with myself. So if I can feel & maintain that connection on the inside, it will reflect to me on the outside. I won’t need to distract from my feelings, because I feel that sense of connection, of belonging, of value, no matter what is happening on the outside. So I guess that is my journey towards emotional resilience.

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What are you hiding?

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When I’m working with a client in a Kinesiology session, there are certain signs that indicate there’s something your being is trying to hide.

I can feel it when it happens and I have a phrase that comes to mind: “Come out, come out wherever you are!!!!”

Kinesiology is awesome in this way. It won’t let those sneaky hidden issues remain hidden forever.

Sometimes in fact, the body won’t let us move forward, unless that thing is found and dealt with. And it IS safe to let it be revealed because NOTHING will come up in a session unless you’re ready to handle it.

We all have stuff we want to hide, that we want no one else to know about.

How often do we question how this pattern of hiding is serving us?

At some point in the past keeping certain issues hidden served us well, like a protection or defense mechanism. It was something that helped us survive.

However, we do outgrow old patterns like this and eventually they no longer serve us, and can even end up holding us back.

Do you ever find that these things can sometimes creep back into your life and say“Here I am! Deal with me!!!”?

How often do we say, “I don’t want to” or “I have dealt with that already, I don’t wanna go there again” (my favourite) or “I have moved on” or “I have put that behind me”.

This has come up many many times for my Kinesiology clients, friends, relatives and for me as well. The same or similar stuff. There are layers to all of these issues.

You may have done a tonne of work around a particular issue and find that it is still coming back to bite you on the bum over and over again.

One of mine that keeps coming back is everything surrounding the death of my grandmother when I was 11 years old. We all have them.

I feel so so honoured and passionate about my work, the more I practice and learn about Kinesiology.

One of the reasons why I absolutely love working with Kinesiology, not only for myself, but with my clients as well, is because Kinesiology explores every aspect of you to find the root cause of the issue and clear it from that level, to clear that layer.

This aspect may be emotional, physical, energetic, spiritual, nutritional, structural, stress related, to name a few, or any combination of aspects.

I have at my disposal a wonderful, ever-expanding range of tools that I use to help uncover the priority issues to clear for you as an individual, to help you resolve these layers of issues, including what may be hidden, either consciously or subconsciously.

The Meridian System

meridian-channelsOne of the tools used in some form in almost every balancing tool in the Kinesiology toolbox, is working with the meridian system.

Kinesiology uses principles of Chinese medicine to find where things are stored in your being, to explore what to do about them and how to go about clearing things up.

One of the main principles of Chinese medicine and Kinesiology is working with meridian lines: invisible lines of energy running through your entire being.

We have 14 main meridians. Twelve are connected to individual organs, muscles, emotional states, foods, amongst other things. Six of these 12 are related to yin energy and six to yang energy. The other two are like reservoirs, one for the six yin and one for the six yang meridians.

These meridian lines can be used to enhance our energy and vitality and help clear your issues.

There are numerous Kinesiology techniques to help you:

  • Experience energy shifts, to relieve pain where there may be an aspect of you that might be resisting feeling relief from pain, or where you may be resisting relief from emotional issues.
  • For jet lag, for shift workers or if you wake at 4:00am every night to use the bathroom or feel the need for sugar or caffeine at a certain time.
  • These issues can remain hidden because they happen at a certain time. Kinesiology has ways to reveal them so they can be dealt with.
  • Calm, ground and centre yourself and allow you to improve concentration when feeling overwhelmed.
  • Express something you may be hiding, so that it’s no longer a stress for you to do so.

These are just a handful of methods we can employ to help you in a Kinesiology session using the depth of the energies in Meridian Lines.

So ask yourself…

Am I ready to deal with my stuff? Even the stuff that is hidden?

If the answer is YES then contact Jordie for more information or book your Kinesiology session now!


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Clearing sabotage programs with Kinesiology

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Do you ever have trouble making decisions?

Have you ever felt on the fence about an issue, or that you are taking both sides?

Do you ever feel like you want something, but maybe there’s also a part of you that doesn’t want it at the same time?

Many people will say in a Kinesiology session…

“But I want to be healthy/ lose weight/ express myself/meet a new partner!!! Why aren’t I doing it?”

This is your conscious self: the desire is there, but your subconscious creates blocks. The conscious mind controls between 1–5 % of your brain’s processing power.

So the other 95 – 99% is controlled by subconscious, unconscious, autonomic & automatic systems.

In Kinesiology, in order for you to move towards your goals, we tap into the subconscious to find what part of that 1 – 5 % of your conscious self is limiting you and your desire for change.

This is one way that Kinesiology is a very powerful tool for change.

Subconsciously you may believe you can have one thing, but not the other and the idea of achieving your goal can bring up subconscious fears.

Here are some examples:

  • Lose weight OR feel safe
  • Put yourself first OR be liked by others
  • Express yourself OR feel safe/liked
  • Meet a new partner OR stay true to me
  • Be your authentic self OR be part of a tribe

In Kinesiology, we work towards having both, for example, losing weight AND feeling safe.

Think about your conscious self like a glass of water. Now, think about your subconscious self like a dam.

The subconscious will bring to the surface what may be blocking you. The subconscious wants to keep your safe, almost like a ‘better the devil you know’ scenario. If you don’t feel safe, it can be less than easy to create change.

It’s a survival need. It can block you from achieving your goals.

You may feel like you’d like to change something – a habit, belief, pattern, reaction, however if you do then….fill in the blanks. The blanks are usually fears about what would happen if I didn’t have that habit, belief, feeling, pattern, reaction to fall back on, so that I can feel safe.

Most people have something like this going on – it is usually called a vice.

Do you have any vices?

Do you smoke? Do you drink? Do you reach for the chocolate or junk food?

Do you avoid certain situations?

Do you over-dramatise in certain situations?

Are you shy about expressing your true self?

In Kinesiology, we call these sabotage programs

They’re triggered by the need to survive. At one time a decision served you well or met your needs.

So reaching for that drink, cigarette, biscuit served you once. However, it may no longer be an appropriate response.

A sabotage could be seen as a ‘glitch in the matrix’. And that glitch is more powerful than your desire to create change, health, happiness, success.

A sabotage program inhibits the healing process, so they are quite a common occurrence within a Kinesiology session.

Those of you who’ve had Kinesiology will no doubt have had to clear at least one sabotage to achieving your goal.

Through clearing these blocks, we can work towards you achieving your goals, with greater freedom and ease.

Ready to clear a sabotage program?

Would you like to discover areas of your life where you may be sabotaging yourself?

Book a Kinesiology appointment or find out more, by contacting Jordie.


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If you say you can, you can, if you say you can’t you can’t. You are always right.

How do you talk to yourself and how does that affect you in your everyday life?

When I was about 14 or 15, I played competition squash. In one of my first matches, I was doing really well and feeling very confident. It was game point and all I had to do was win this point and I would win the match, best out of 3 games.

I made a silly mistake and lost the point. The way I spoke to myself after losing that point was horrendous. I then went on to lose that game, and then the next and then the next until I had gone from nearly winning 3-0, to losing 2-3.

With each point I lost, I was harder and harder on myself, I felt angrier and ashamed.

The words I said to myself, affected my performance

In our every day lives, we each have many roles – wife, mother, daughter, husband, father, son, friend, acquaintance, colleague, boss – I’m sure you can think of many more.

Our reactions and responses may vary widely depending on the role we are in. The amount of time or energy one role encompasses, or the demands of that role, may also vary and infringe on other roles, affecting our performance.

For example, if you have had a particularly stressful day at work, how may that affect your role in your family?

Our self image in a role is affected by our performance in that role and the things we say to ourselves in that role.

Our self talk about our performance has a powerful effect on our performance and is the most effective place to break the cycle of poor performance, poor self image and negative self talk about ourselves and our performance.

No matter if the performance was good or not, what we say before and after will affect our self image in that role

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking as when we created them.” Albert Einstein

If all you hear from yourself is critical, negative self talk, these messages you are giving yourself lower the level of your performance.

They create stress and increased effort and pressure to perform at a level that is satisfying for you. Because the disappointment of not doing better is so great, we’re upset with ourselves in that role and the result is a low self image.

We create a cycle of negative self talk, lowering our confidence, lowering our self esteem, our self worth and our energy levels. This cycle may ultimately lead to withdrawing from trying new things which help us to expand, learn and grow.

  • How many hats do you wear in how many roles in your life?
  • What are the responsibilities that go with those hats?
  • Do you feel that any of your roles infringe on any other roles?
  • How do you find a balance?

I will often explain to my clients, that a large part of what we do in Kinesiology is to relieve the stress in situations, so that you can function more at your optimum level.

We don’t deny or suppress what is going on, but we work with your circumstances to release the obstacles which may block you from achieving, in this case, your optimum self in each role, within each of the hats that you may wear, and help you to find a healthy balance.

There are many Kinesiology techniques to help to release you from cycles of negative self talk

If you would like more information or to book an appointment please contact me, or you can visit me on Facebook.