Jordio Kinesiology – with Jordie Slonim | Melbourne, Australia

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Embodying Presence

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Ten years ago, around this time of year, I was presenting my graduate performance choreography, “In The Absence of Presence” for my Bachelor of Arts in Performance Studies.

It was a challenging time as my then partner and I were at the same time planning to move back to live in Ireland where her family live.

I decided to do the piece, as for the year before, my partner was living in Ireland and I was in Australia. At that stage, we had been together for 10 years. The theme of the piece was about what I was going through, living away from my partner for a year. Absence, longing, belonging, waiting, waiting, waiting.

At the time of making the work, I had glimmers of what it was really about, glimmers that I quickly shoved aside.

It was really about being absent from my own presence. I was lost. I didn’t know who I was for a long time before I made the choreography and for a very long time afterwards.

I had a kinesiology session today and something wonderful emerged with what I have been experiencing of late.

My way to move to the next stage of connection, expansion, balance and growth is to embody presence.

I have been intellectualising my spiritual self and abandoning it at the same time. I’ve been resisting that I can trust the flow of spiritual growth. I’ve been in a state of looking for proof of anything and everything instead of leaning into the joy of what I love with Kinesiology and the research I’ve been doing to develop new protocols, ironically, one new protocol about elements of trust.

I haven’t been integrating spiritual growth with other aspects of myself.

Over the last few months, many of my clients have needed brain integration balancing, and many of those sessions have also been about being present.

The techniques I employ in a kinesiology session, in these cases, to do with brain integration, not only help clients become more present in their lives, they also have had spectacular results in gaining clarity for decision making, gaining focus, clearing brain fog, and moving forward with ease and confidence in trusting the entirety of their being.

In our growth, integration of all aspects of self, even those parts we may not necessarily want to integrate, go to make us whole. In clearing the blockages to integration, we move our whole self forward, embodying presence.

How do you embody presence?

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Choosing Your Path: The 11:11 Gateway

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As part of a beautiful, uplifting 11:11 Gateway clearing done with my new fellow practitioners at Solar heart Healing House, I set the above cards, crystals & oil to manifest my intention.

In all kinesiology sessions, we work on all aspects of your being – mentally, physically, spiritually, energetically, emotionally, socially, financially etc.

No matter the technique used, we work to peel back the layers to find the root cause, where it is stored or blocked in your body, how it is affecting you, who, if anyone is involved & find what we can do about it. 

Things have felt fairly tumultuous the last few months. It seems a common theme has emerged for myself & people around me. For friends, clients, people I’ve met recently.

It’s been quite a journey.

There have been some common triggers showing up, for clients, friends & myself:

  • not being good enough
  • rejection
  • do I fit in?
  • ambiguity
  • putting others needs ahead of my own
  • being ignored

I have been shown all these triggers, all these things that have pushed my buttons, to show me how I have undervalued myself. By putting myself in situations or around people who don’t appreciate what I bring to the table, I have been setting myself up to constantly be rejected, to be ignored, to show me I wasn’t good enough, that I don’t fit in, that I put other’s needs ahead of mine & I’m inviting people who are ambiguous & unclear.

I have looked deeply into these issues. I have been shown for example, the effect of the lack of clarity from another person. That a person’s words may be clear, but when those words are contradictory to their actions, their body language, the energy they are exuding, and this is their consistent way of interacting with me, the effect on me is that it triggers me to doubt my beautiful, innate intuition & insight. That I am not good enough around this person.

Even amongst all that lack of clarity being thrown at me, I have gained tremendous growth in leaving behind old patterns, habits & even people who cannot appreciate my value.

And in taking responsibility for clearing these patterns for me, it further enhances my growth & the growth of those concerned.

These are the energies of this 11/11 Stargate. To purge ourselves of these old aspects to make way for what will greater serve our purpose in this world. To release limitations placed upon us by ourselves & others & situations we are in.

Kinesiology sessions have helped me & my clients to find & clear our triggers in such a profound way, to show us where & how to grow.

I have been working with these triggers on myself, but I have found it has been quite a dominating theme for my clients as well over the last few months.

We are all transforming. We have needed to release these triggers. Realising that the triggers, patterns & habits that may have shaped us in the past, are no longer serving us. We are opening to walk through this 11:11 gateway of manifestation showing our true authentic selves.. In releasing the dross of our old patterning, we allow ourselves to recalibrate with the flow of energy of our choosing.

I am here to connect. I facilitate connection. Connecting myself & others, others with others, people with aspects of themselves or places or situations to allow themselves to grow fully into their true essence.

This is how I choose to walk through the 11:11 Gateway. Expanding my gift of facilitating connections.

How do you choose to recalibrate yourself?

With what intention would you like to walk through this Gateway of 11:11?

 


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Get Outta Your Head!!!

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So who else, aside from me, has had a whole lotta over thinking going on?!!!

There has been so much moving & shaking lately.

It’s been a massive roller coaster ride over the last couple of months, with many things being triggered, lots & lots of grief coming up (and I don’t just mean grief as in a person dying). It has been less than easy to navigate.

At a beautiful spot in Belgrave, someone imparted a lovely technique you all may find useful. It takes all of about 10-20 seconds.

I have been using this every time I feel myself getting caught up in my thoughts & any issues of this human life.

Picture yourself in space.

Picture your feet fading….

Your legs fading….

Your torso & pelvis fading….

Your arms fading…

Your head fading…

Your thoughts, faded…..

You are the Universe.

Even typing that now helped my to feel relief.

Try it, see if it helps.

By the way, there have been times I have had to do it every few minutes.

This is a way to retrain your brain to interrupt those times when we get too caught up in thoughts & issues.

I’d love to hear how you go with it

Love & light beautiful people xxx

#kinesiology #spacemeditation #overthinking #stress #release


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Navigating The Polarity of Painful Experience

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Five years ago today, without even realising at the time, I began my journey towards Kinesiology. My journey arose out of a very painful experience.

If you ask any Kinesiologist how they came to Kinesiology, each story is unique & varied, but most often, it has been from a profound personal experience.

I feel that this is how we each facilitate our clients in our own individual way & why clients are attracted to seek Kinesiology from specific individuals.

We all go through painful experiences, whether it’s something physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, energetic or otherwise.Through my own experience & those of my clients, it feels like often we gain the greatest understanding, growth & expansion, through those times.

There are however, always positives in every situation, no matter how negative or harsh it may seem – although it certainly doesn’t feel like it at the time!!!!

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There are opportunities to grow & approach things through greater awareness & an openness to receive help & make new choices.

I am abundantly grateful for every situation & challenge presented over the last 5 years (and before of course, but for these purposes, I’ll stick to this time period).

Each situation & challenge has demonstrated to me where & how I can grow, showing me how I can respond differently, more in alignment with my true self, to help myself through, rather than hindering me & getting in my own way.

I am also abundantly grateful to each person who has joined me for part of, or all of this healing journey over the last five years. I feel honoured to be in the company of people (both professionally & otherwise), who have offered wonderful insights, love, nurture & wonderful friendship.

Often these people don’t know how much a kind word or action, one simple thing has helped dissipate a situation profoundly!!!

And, I am grateful to myself for asking for help & opening myself up to allow myself to receive it!!!!

I saw something on Facebook that really hit me:

I didn’t need you to fix me. I needed you to love me while I fix myself”

One of my aims, both professionally & personally, is to hold a space of love for people, whether I am actively helping them, or just being there, laughing with them or crying with them. All those polar opposites & everything in between.

To hold a space of love.


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Clearing Out The Leftovers

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I am often amazed, challenged, inspired & sometimes dazzled about the things that can come up in a Kinesiology session. For my clients, but also for myself.

I had a session last week, which was phenomenal. Most of what came up in this session was quite unexpected, the balancing techniques needed were awesomely varied & the results enlightening, exhilarating, producing a profound sense of freedom.

Now, many of the issues that came up were old ones. The stuff I thought I’d dealt with.

One of the major lessons I have learnt about old stuff resurfacing & Kinesiology, is that it will come up in different ways, in varied layers & only when we are ready for the next layer to be cleared.

My Kinesiologist last week lovingly called this “leftovers”.

The term “Leftovers” is absolutely perfect in describing what came up.

Many of my clients, in session, when a particular issue or person or theme comes up, will say,

“But I’ve already dealt with that!!!”

I do too.

We often have particular things that will keep coming up in different sessions, because there are many layers of clearing needed to release different aspects of dealing with the issue, person or situation.

Human beings, in fact all life forms, are constantly seeking balance, harmony, equilibrium. The Chinese view the whole Universe as Yin/ Yang. Each has a polarity, but needs each other to be a complete unit. Neither Yin, nor Yang can stand alone. Our physical, mental, emotional, spiritual & energetic beings, when out of balance, will often look to the opposite extreme, the polarity to find balance.

In Kinesiology, we have many many techniques which utilise these principals.

We actually call a Kinesiology session a balance!!

In the world we live in, nature functions in a spiral manner. So there is always giving & receiving. This type of energy is all around us & inside of us. There is a delicate balancing act in order for us to feel stable, grounded, connected. There are polarities, negative & positive energies which need to be in harmony.

Both our inner & outer worlds work with spiral energy.

In our outer environment, the weather patterns, the currents of the oceans, the solar system involve spiral patterns of giving & receiving.

In our inner environments, our DNA, our fingerprints involve spiral energy. Our thoughts, actions, emotions, all involve patterns of giving & receiving in our actions.

So in reference to the “leftovers”, in life we often stumble over the same or a similar kind of lesson. We go through several stages of growth with everything we do, in a spiral pattern.

So rather than thinking or feeling like we are going around in circles, we can approach this from a perspective that we are on a spiral path of awareness.

On our spiral pattern of growth, we may hit a roadblock. As we learn the next stage of a lesson, we are able to pass that point on the spiral in a more gentle & easy manner. And clearing these roadblocks allows us to learn new aspects of a lesson & move towards where we want to be with less stress.

The thing I find most fascinating about these “leftovers”, is that the reason they came to the surface in this way, was all because my body didn’t want to take a supplement for my adrenals!!!! The need for the supplement came up in a previous balance to increase energy levels.

The irony is, my energy levels were being depleted on an energetic level, (not at first on a physical level), because of these “leftovers”. So my body has been trying to process the “leftovers”, through increasing physical energy, but not allowing itself to because of the energetic ‘leftovers’.

All aspects of my being needed to be balanced to allow the processing to happen, so I could feel more energised.

Well, I had to laugh!!!! Actually, we both had a laugh, a good laugh about it.

The energy of these “leftovers” was circling around, circling around, until it found the right avenue, the right pathway to progress. To progress along a spiral path of growth, rather than a path of going around in circles.

Do you have any issues that seem to keep going around in circles?


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The Expectation of Joy: A Balancing Act

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Last Sunday, I happened to go into a park to eat my lunch & I was pleasantly surprised to find a couple of ducks with about 12 babies, wondering around, going about their business. I was inspired.

I had my camera with me & took many many shots.

The sun was beaming down beautifully, making the water glisten & sparkle with fairy lights. There were an array of the smells of spring filling the air. It wasn’t too cold or warm. There were other people around & other ducks & birds too.

I was watching this little family unit & their dealings in their environment. The little ducklings were going about their business, finding things in the grass to eat, having a swim, struggling to climb back out of the pond. All the while, Mama & Papa duck were keeping an eye out. When a child or adult, or another duck would get to close, Papa would assume attack position & charge. It was rather amusing.

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This was a wonderful encounter with the unexpected.

On the flip side…..

Things come up that can throw us off balance. That shake our world. As human beings, we all have expectations. For me, the issue with having expectations, is what I go through when what I am expecting either doesn’t happen at all, or happens in a different way.

Now I don’t know about you, but this happens with me in varying degrees. There is a scale from, “OK, I can deal with this”, to “Oh no, my whole world is falling apart!!!” And anywhere in between.

So for me, most recently, I experienced the:

“Oh no, my whole world is falling apart!”

I realised the next day that it wasn’t that bad, but I had made it that bad, mainly with negative self talk, but also because my expectation for this event was incredibly high. I had placed a lot of time & energy into the expectation of this experience.

A few months ago, as part of my Kinesiology training, we covered a unit about Codependency.

Codependency can be seen as an emotional & behavioural condition which affects your ability to have healthy, mutually satisfying relationships. Codependents will often have low self esteem & look for anything outside of themselves to make them feel better. This can become a cycle of feeling powerless in your own life. We are often trapped by feelings of deficiency.

Sound familiar anyone?!!!

Us humans, we are codependent. We need human interaction. This can have a functional side – being there for someone, listening, sharing both the good & bad, and it can also have a dysfunctional side, in my case, a need to be needed.

In kinesiology, we work with this to become aware of your codependent behaviour, to elevate responses & shift towards better self care & self responsibility.

First step is awareness & the second step is acceptance.

When we can shift to a state of more independence, we can move from thinking we are not enough, or deficient, & more towards self love. To feel that it is safe to be me. To thinking, ‘I love myself the way I am’.

Interdependence is where individuals interact for mutual benefit with mutual love, respect, trust, interconnections & compassion. In a society we are each interdependent – others depend on me to do my job & I depend on others to do theirs.

Interdependence allows you to feel more in choice, living from spirit & higher self. We can say what we want without expectation, we can stay connected with someone & remain independent at the same time. This is where I would like to get to on a more permanent basis!!!

In the past, my need to be needed has at times been compulsive, like an addiction (Addiction to Distraction) I used to want to rescue people all the time. This need of mine not only didn’t serve me, but it ultimately didn’t serve others either.

I have since worked through many of those issues, however, those needs still do pop up. I have come to a place, most of the time, where I am more aware of them now, & can step in more towards independence & interdependence.

I have noticed a link between my need to be needed, my codependent tendency, the expectations that I have & the energy I put into those expectations. Not just expectations of other people, but of things & events as well. I have also recognised my tendency to look to things outside of myself to help me through, like this event.

Do any of you recognise any of these things in your interactions with people?

“No person, place or thing can give you happiness. They may give you cause for happiness and a feeling of contentment, but the joy of Living comes from within.”

Genevieve Behrend

I saw this quote around the same time I went into my “Oh no, my whole world is falling apart!” experience. It helped me to understand that all that energy of expectation in this event was about the joy I was bringing to the event, not the event itself.

And I can bring that same expectation of joy to anything. Because it comes from within. Not from people or events outside of me!!!!

I found my joy of living, quite unexpectedly on that Sunday, observing & photographing this family of ducks. I observed the healthy codependent interacting of these ducks within their environment & within their family unit. The interdependence between them. The independence of the ducklings as they wandered off on their own, maybe always knowing Mama and/or Papa were nearby. Them knowing when they’ve strayed too far, that maybe they still need their parents for certain things & at the same time their parents simultaneously giving them both freedom & independence. Allowing them to grow & thrive as they will.

They were an inspiration of interdependence in action!!!

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At the moment, I reckon the majority of the time, I am in independence – self love. I do dip into codependency – in a dysfunctional way. And what I am finding is that now that I know another way, it seems worse to step back into that role of needing to be needed.

I must say as well. There are people in my life who aren’t aware of my changes towards self love, even if I have spoken to them of my journey, who still treat me as though I am more in codependency. I am not sure why, maybe that’s how they will always see me. It takes extra energy with those people to maintain my new state. But I choose to do so.

Be prepared. When you make these kinds of changes in your life, some people, whether they are conscious of it or not, still need you to stay as you were, even if they say otherwise!!!! There is no fault here. It just is. 

These changes in behaviour are less than easy & as always, you have a choice.

A choice to stay as you have always been, or to change, expand, grow & eventually achieve a more permanent state of balance.


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In The Absence of Presence

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I used to dance. Actually for most of my life I was a dancer. I was also a choreographer. I never really got paid much for it. I mainly did it for the love of it. It was the only was that I could truly express myself. In fact I loved it so much, I eventually moved to London to dance for a couple of years & got to experience classes, shows & workshops with some awesomely inspirational people.

In 2007, as part of my final year of a Bachelor of Arts in Performance Studies, I choreographed my final piece. It was called “In the Absence of Presence”. At the time of choreographing it, I thought it was about myself & my partner at the time living in different countries for an extended period of time & how difficult that was.

However, looking back, there was always this little niggling feeling underneath it, that it wasn’t really about that. Which I chose to ignore. At the time I believed the relationship was something that it wasn’t.

Three years later, that 13 year relationship ended, in quite a shocking, heart breaking way, leaving me quite a mess, in quite a similar fashion as I have been lately. This break up also lead me to Kinesiology, so there is always light at the end of the tunnel, but I digress.

Another year or so later, I came across a flyer for “In the Absence of Presence”. I realised that the piece was never about me & my ex. It was about feeling absent from parts of me.

Now that was a massive revelation!!!!!!

And even now, with all the growth & change I have been experiencing, I am finding I am getting to another level of awareness of how I have been doing the same things. Trusting that the people around me, in my environment, know what is for my highest good. In that relationship, I believed my ex knew what was for my highest good, people now, the same thing, I have been putting faith in them & their truth above my own.

At the time I created “In the Absence of Presence”, I believed my ex’s truth SHOULD be my own. That was my awareness at the time.

Imagine my shock, disappointment, hurt & sadness to discover I am doing the same type of thing to this day. I have had a core belief that the truth of the people around me SHOULD be my own. And this is something that I am still working through & still feel shocked, disappointed, hurt & sad.

But little by little, step my step, I am gaining more awareness.

What really started me on this most recent path of new awareness, was my most recent Kinesiology session. Just looking at things from one level, my Kinesiologist was able to tap into a perspective that I hadn’t even considered for my situation at all.

It got me thinking. How often are we around the same people, with the same approaches to things, in the same environments? (This includes our own perspectives!!) How do we know when perhaps we need a fresh perspective? How do we know if perhaps our environments & the people in it (including ourselves) may actually be wanting us to stay in a particular way, because that’s what we know, that’s what the people around us know, & it may be serving a purpose. Others may need us to stay the way they want or need us to be, even if it is not for our highest good.

How often might we come across something or someone from our past & realise with a fresh perspective, what may have been going on underneath it all? Like coming across my flyer.

By the same token, is there a part of me that wants me, my environment & the people around me to stay as they are, because it is what I know, even if it isn’t for anyone’s highest good?

If this is the case, why? Why do we do this?

I find that this happens with my own Kinesiology clients as well. That even though there may be chronic pain, anxiety or other ongoing issues, there is a part of us that knows ourselves I like this & wants to remain the same, safe in what we know.

A part of us that maybe knows that once we have the awareness, change & growth inevitably follows. This can be scary…the unknown!!!

As one of my clients said, “Do I want to work that hard for something or someone?”

 

So how do we grow within this? Are we even aware of how we are keeping ourselves in a particular state of being? As with me in my session, my awareness was absent. Absent of some limitations I was putting on myself, how my environment & some people around me felt limiting. It was a bit of a shock to realise this absence of awareness, this absence of presence in my existence. Again!!!

I have been separating myself from the dancer part of me for a long time. For too long. I have been limiting myself with excuses:

  • I am so much older
  • All my injuries have come back to haunt me
  • I am not dance fit
  • Actually I’m not fit full stop!!!
  • All the contemporary classes – which are my thang, are on the other side of town.

So…..limiting myself. Silly jordie.

In my kinesiology session, one of the things we worked on was being free to be me. About releasing a cage around my heart from when I was five. I had separated my emotional self because it kept getting rejected. I have been told through my life that I am too emotional, too sensitive, too intense. What I have realised is that I need to embrace it, welcome it, to own it.

Instead of rejecting myself for it. Maybe in accepting & owning that I am emotional, myself & others wouldn’t see it as a negative thing.

I had put limits on my emotional self being free.

So now I am posed with the question of what do I want to create? Do I want to continue to limit myself with how I can get back into dancing now? Or do I want to allow my focus with dance to be as it originally was. To express my true self. To move because I enjoy it, it brings me joy, allows me to expand in the physical sense of the word.

And if I allow myself to create expansion with dance expression, with the expression of how I truly feel, can I allow that intention to flow into creating that true expression through other aspects of my life? To feel the presence of all parts of me, not just the ones that I or someone else deem to be acceptable, but all parts. With no absence of presence.

I have found a couple of adult classes. The next step is to go & experience them with no expectation, and with the intention of feeling the joy of moving in this way again.

As with the awareness, one step at a time.

Ask yourself if you have ever felt those underlying niggling questions or doubts about a person or a situation.

Now ask yourself, what do you want to do about it? What do you want to create? Are you thinking, feeling, behaving in a way to create the life that you want?

Are you aware of what you want to create for yourself?