Jordio Kinesiology – with Jordie Slonim | Melbourne, Australia

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Year of the Monkey, bringing the fun in!

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For about the last 6 weeks in Kinesiology sessions with clients, insights & messages keep flooding in about finding ways to bring more humour to situations or issues in our lives. Things like the energy of mischievous gnomes, thinking of an uplifting song, a funny movie or show, or a comedic memory that may be needed to bring in.

A sense of fun.

These are certainly not meant to undermine any situations or issues, merely to bring an alternate approach.

Then, a few days ago, I read about the energies of the upcoming Chinese New Year – the year of the Monkey.

The Red Fire Monkey is vibrant & playful, light & bright.

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Monkey energy doesn’t hide itself away. Its captivating when allowing itself to be seen. Monkey gives support to speak up.

Ask yourself, are you afraid to be truly seen?

The energy is active & creative & surprises you with the unexpected. It brings vitality & strength. The willingness to play & have fun opens the energy for change.

The shadow of the monkey is gossip, drama, negativity, so be aware & make an effort to remove yourself from these types of energies.

Release the need to control, keep a sense of humour & even if things seem like they’re not working, you may simply be going on an alternate path to get to your destination, a path which may be filled with unexpected opportunities for transformation & growth. You are likely to arrive at the desired outcome or even something better.

Enjoy the journey!!!

Create the energy of your journey.

Use laughter to be constructive, be adventurous, try something new.

Monkeys enjoy community, working together to create, to enjoy.

So how would you like to create your journey for the upcoming Chinese New Year?

What kind of energy would you like to invoke?

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The Magical Worry Box

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During one of my first units in my Diploma of Kinesiology – quite some time ago now, I was introduced to this technique of using a Worry Box.

Dunno who first came up with this technique, but to be honest, it hasn’t come up all that much in the years I have been both practicing Kinesiology & as a client.

But now…to me…it has become… The Magical Worry Box…..

The way it works is, you write down all your worries, individually on slips of paper & place them in the worry box. We then test for how many minutes a day & if there is a specific time of day for you to open this box & look at all the worries inside.

So it may be tested in a Kinesiology session, that you need to work with your worry box, say after dinner, for 10 minutes.

You take each piece of paper out in turn & say one says, “When will I get the vacuuming done?” – you then consider, “Do I want to worry about that?”, if you do, worry, then put it back in the box for tomorrow if you choose, or throw it away. If you find yourself thinking about any of the worries in the box at other times, you need to say to yourself,

Stop, you can deal with that later at your allotted time.”

Your worries may be about absolutely anything – from cleaning the house, to dealing with an illness. From your child going to a party, to issues in your relationship…..anything.

The point is choice. Choosing that these worries do NOT consume your life.

I have been doing this of late to deal with a particular situation where I have been perpetually overthinking, feeling anxious & trying to work something through.

So I decided to utilise this technique of The Magical Worry Box to help me.

Every night at 9:50 PM for 5 minutes, I open my box & look at my worries.

I have discovered several quite interesting things!!

Part of this technique is any time I start thinking about those things during the day, I interrupt myself & say: “Stop Jords, you can deal with that later at your allotted time.”

Now, in simply bringing awareness to every time I am thinking about those things, I am astounded at how much time & energy I am giving to my worries – basically to these things I have absolutely no control over!!!!!!

Say I’m awake for 16 hours in the day on average, I have actually been focusing on these things for about 4-6 hours out of every day.

I was shocked!

Then I stared to think of all the things I could have been thinking about, putting energy into instead!

I actually had to laugh at myself!!!!

The irony is, I get to my worry box, I look at the stuff in it & I’ve realised that it’s actually changed how I feel about it.

In giving myself permission to worry, it has taken the need or the habit of worry away. I have realised, it has almost become a habitual response to something I don’t understand & wish to. Just because I want to understand, does not mean I am going to understand in this way & worrying about it does very little other than taking up a lot of time & energy. I have been giving this situation so much power over me, doing this technique has helped me to start to channel this energy into the things that I want to.

When we interrupt negative thoughts or habitual patterns, or any patterns for that matter, whatever they are about, we start to develop new ways of dealing, new habits, new neural pathways. We design the way we want to live & what we want to focus on, rather than what we have always focused on or the way that we have always focused.

So, I ask you:

Is there anything that you are perpetually worrying about, putting lots of energy into? Would you like to be using that energy in other ways?


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Choosing Your Path: The 11:11 Gateway

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As part of a beautiful, uplifting 11:11 Gateway clearing done with my new fellow practitioners at Solar heart Healing House, I set the above cards, crystals & oil to manifest my intention.

In all kinesiology sessions, we work on all aspects of your being – mentally, physically, spiritually, energetically, emotionally, socially, financially etc.

No matter the technique used, we work to peel back the layers to find the root cause, where it is stored or blocked in your body, how it is affecting you, who, if anyone is involved & find what we can do about it. 

Things have felt fairly tumultuous the last few months. It seems a common theme has emerged for myself & people around me. For friends, clients, people I’ve met recently.

It’s been quite a journey.

There have been some common triggers showing up, for clients, friends & myself:

  • not being good enough
  • rejection
  • do I fit in?
  • ambiguity
  • putting others needs ahead of my own
  • being ignored

I have been shown all these triggers, all these things that have pushed my buttons, to show me how I have undervalued myself. By putting myself in situations or around people who don’t appreciate what I bring to the table, I have been setting myself up to constantly be rejected, to be ignored, to show me I wasn’t good enough, that I don’t fit in, that I put other’s needs ahead of mine & I’m inviting people who are ambiguous & unclear.

I have looked deeply into these issues. I have been shown for example, the effect of the lack of clarity from another person. That a person’s words may be clear, but when those words are contradictory to their actions, their body language, the energy they are exuding, and this is their consistent way of interacting with me, the effect on me is that it triggers me to doubt my beautiful, innate intuition & insight. That I am not good enough around this person.

Even amongst all that lack of clarity being thrown at me, I have gained tremendous growth in leaving behind old patterns, habits & even people who cannot appreciate my value.

And in taking responsibility for clearing these patterns for me, it further enhances my growth & the growth of those concerned.

These are the energies of this 11/11 Stargate. To purge ourselves of these old aspects to make way for what will greater serve our purpose in this world. To release limitations placed upon us by ourselves & others & situations we are in.

Kinesiology sessions have helped me & my clients to find & clear our triggers in such a profound way, to show us where & how to grow.

I have been working with these triggers on myself, but I have found it has been quite a dominating theme for my clients as well over the last few months.

We are all transforming. We have needed to release these triggers. Realising that the triggers, patterns & habits that may have shaped us in the past, are no longer serving us. We are opening to walk through this 11:11 gateway of manifestation showing our true authentic selves.. In releasing the dross of our old patterning, we allow ourselves to recalibrate with the flow of energy of our choosing.

I am here to connect. I facilitate connection. Connecting myself & others, others with others, people with aspects of themselves or places or situations to allow themselves to grow fully into their true essence.

This is how I choose to walk through the 11:11 Gateway. Expanding my gift of facilitating connections.

How do you choose to recalibrate yourself?

With what intention would you like to walk through this Gateway of 11:11?

 


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Navigating The Polarity of Painful Experience

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Five years ago today, without even realising at the time, I began my journey towards Kinesiology. My journey arose out of a very painful experience.

If you ask any Kinesiologist how they came to Kinesiology, each story is unique & varied, but most often, it has been from a profound personal experience.

I feel that this is how we each facilitate our clients in our own individual way & why clients are attracted to seek Kinesiology from specific individuals.

We all go through painful experiences, whether it’s something physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, energetic or otherwise.Through my own experience & those of my clients, it feels like often we gain the greatest understanding, growth & expansion, through those times.

There are however, always positives in every situation, no matter how negative or harsh it may seem – although it certainly doesn’t feel like it at the time!!!!

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There are opportunities to grow & approach things through greater awareness & an openness to receive help & make new choices.

I am abundantly grateful for every situation & challenge presented over the last 5 years (and before of course, but for these purposes, I’ll stick to this time period).

Each situation & challenge has demonstrated to me where & how I can grow, showing me how I can respond differently, more in alignment with my true self, to help myself through, rather than hindering me & getting in my own way.

I am also abundantly grateful to each person who has joined me for part of, or all of this healing journey over the last five years. I feel honoured to be in the company of people (both professionally & otherwise), who have offered wonderful insights, love, nurture & wonderful friendship.

Often these people don’t know how much a kind word or action, one simple thing has helped dissipate a situation profoundly!!!

And, I am grateful to myself for asking for help & opening myself up to allow myself to receive it!!!!

I saw something on Facebook that really hit me:

I didn’t need you to fix me. I needed you to love me while I fix myself”

One of my aims, both professionally & personally, is to hold a space of love for people, whether I am actively helping them, or just being there, laughing with them or crying with them. All those polar opposites & everything in between.

To hold a space of love.


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The Expectation of Joy: A Balancing Act

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Last Sunday, I happened to go into a park to eat my lunch & I was pleasantly surprised to find a couple of ducks with about 12 babies, wondering around, going about their business. I was inspired.

I had my camera with me & took many many shots.

The sun was beaming down beautifully, making the water glisten & sparkle with fairy lights. There were an array of the smells of spring filling the air. It wasn’t too cold or warm. There were other people around & other ducks & birds too.

I was watching this little family unit & their dealings in their environment. The little ducklings were going about their business, finding things in the grass to eat, having a swim, struggling to climb back out of the pond. All the while, Mama & Papa duck were keeping an eye out. When a child or adult, or another duck would get to close, Papa would assume attack position & charge. It was rather amusing.

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This was a wonderful encounter with the unexpected.

On the flip side…..

Things come up that can throw us off balance. That shake our world. As human beings, we all have expectations. For me, the issue with having expectations, is what I go through when what I am expecting either doesn’t happen at all, or happens in a different way.

Now I don’t know about you, but this happens with me in varying degrees. There is a scale from, “OK, I can deal with this”, to “Oh no, my whole world is falling apart!!!” And anywhere in between.

So for me, most recently, I experienced the:

“Oh no, my whole world is falling apart!”

I realised the next day that it wasn’t that bad, but I had made it that bad, mainly with negative self talk, but also because my expectation for this event was incredibly high. I had placed a lot of time & energy into the expectation of this experience.

A few months ago, as part of my Kinesiology training, we covered a unit about Codependency.

Codependency can be seen as an emotional & behavioural condition which affects your ability to have healthy, mutually satisfying relationships. Codependents will often have low self esteem & look for anything outside of themselves to make them feel better. This can become a cycle of feeling powerless in your own life. We are often trapped by feelings of deficiency.

Sound familiar anyone?!!!

Us humans, we are codependent. We need human interaction. This can have a functional side – being there for someone, listening, sharing both the good & bad, and it can also have a dysfunctional side, in my case, a need to be needed.

In kinesiology, we work with this to become aware of your codependent behaviour, to elevate responses & shift towards better self care & self responsibility.

First step is awareness & the second step is acceptance.

When we can shift to a state of more independence, we can move from thinking we are not enough, or deficient, & more towards self love. To feel that it is safe to be me. To thinking, ‘I love myself the way I am’.

Interdependence is where individuals interact for mutual benefit with mutual love, respect, trust, interconnections & compassion. In a society we are each interdependent – others depend on me to do my job & I depend on others to do theirs.

Interdependence allows you to feel more in choice, living from spirit & higher self. We can say what we want without expectation, we can stay connected with someone & remain independent at the same time. This is where I would like to get to on a more permanent basis!!!

In the past, my need to be needed has at times been compulsive, like an addiction (Addiction to Distraction) I used to want to rescue people all the time. This need of mine not only didn’t serve me, but it ultimately didn’t serve others either.

I have since worked through many of those issues, however, those needs still do pop up. I have come to a place, most of the time, where I am more aware of them now, & can step in more towards independence & interdependence.

I have noticed a link between my need to be needed, my codependent tendency, the expectations that I have & the energy I put into those expectations. Not just expectations of other people, but of things & events as well. I have also recognised my tendency to look to things outside of myself to help me through, like this event.

Do any of you recognise any of these things in your interactions with people?

“No person, place or thing can give you happiness. They may give you cause for happiness and a feeling of contentment, but the joy of Living comes from within.”

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I saw this quote around the same time I went into my “Oh no, my whole world is falling apart!” experience. It helped me to understand that all that energy of expectation in this event was about the joy I was bringing to the event, not the event itself.

And I can bring that same expectation of joy to anything. Because it comes from within. Not from people or events outside of me!!!!

I found my joy of living, quite unexpectedly on that Sunday, observing & photographing this family of ducks. I observed the healthy codependent interacting of these ducks within their environment & within their family unit. The interdependence between them. The independence of the ducklings as they wandered off on their own, maybe always knowing Mama and/or Papa were nearby. Them knowing when they’ve strayed too far, that maybe they still need their parents for certain things & at the same time their parents simultaneously giving them both freedom & independence. Allowing them to grow & thrive as they will.

They were an inspiration of interdependence in action!!!

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At the moment, I reckon the majority of the time, I am in independence – self love. I do dip into codependency – in a dysfunctional way. And what I am finding is that now that I know another way, it seems worse to step back into that role of needing to be needed.

I must say as well. There are people in my life who aren’t aware of my changes towards self love, even if I have spoken to them of my journey, who still treat me as though I am more in codependency. I am not sure why, maybe that’s how they will always see me. It takes extra energy with those people to maintain my new state. But I choose to do so.

Be prepared. When you make these kinds of changes in your life, some people, whether they are conscious of it or not, still need you to stay as you were, even if they say otherwise!!!! There is no fault here. It just is. 

These changes in behaviour are less than easy & as always, you have a choice.

A choice to stay as you have always been, or to change, expand, grow & eventually achieve a more permanent state of balance.


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Addicted to Distraction

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I’ve been thinking quite a lot lately about the nature of addiction. About what we get addicted to & why we get addicted to it.

I have been a smoker & I used to drink Coke – both addictions. Both things that are considered to be an addiction as such. An addiction to a substance.

But what about all the other stuff?

Have you ever considered that a behavior can be an addiction? Or even an emotion could be an addiction?

Isn’t it more about the need for something? The need to maybe cover up something? The need to possibly not face our emotions?

For the past few months I have been going through a pretty major transformation. This last weekend was incredibly difficult, challenging & revealed to me some things.

I do this thing to cover up my feelings of inadequacy, loneliness, lack of self worth. I set up time with people to do stuff, or even on my own, to distract. I also have a bit of an addiction to over thinking.

So what do you do when plans get changed, people have other things that take precedence & all your plans to actually help yourself through a situation fail? When you recognize you actually need help & maybe making arrangements to do something with people is a way of asking for it without asking for it?

You are left to rely on yourself, as I was. And I am finding this happening more & more lately. Its like the Universe is saying to me, “Deal with this alone.” And sometimes, like this weekend, I just don’t have the energy or strength to deal with it alone. I have felt that strength to do it alone has been less than easy to maintain.

I have no solutions here, no magic potions, no ground breaking way through.

I guess I’m just wondering how many of us go through this? How many of us do all we can to help ourselves, only to find those things not working, or changing. And then not knowing what to do.

In my case, I’ve been looking outside of myself for help. There is my addiction to distraction. But maybe there is also a fine line between finding the strength from within to help yourself & recognizing when you do actually need some help, maybe just someone to listen, someone to be there to cry on their shoulder, someone to go to a playground with & play on the swings, to be silly.

Maybe, there are times when I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do.

So when is distraction too much distraction? Distraction has been great for me to stop over thinking. But I guess as has been shown to me this weekend, when I rely on things or people outside of me to help me through too much, it can become more of an addiction.

The irony is, I work with addictions in my Kinesiology work. So maybe this is all being shown to me so that I can have more of an understanding about the root causes of an addiction, and help my clients with their addictions on a more in depth level.

Often addictions to substances cover up other addictive behaviors. So in my case take away the addiction to smoking & drinking coke – which took a lot of work to get through, & the behavior is still there.

Addictions are ways to avoid unacceptable feelings. We can become driven by them. Our life is no longer a conscious choice. Our freedom is absent.

Addictive behaviors are mood altering – whether its food, drugs, alcohol or in my case distraction, it is mood altering. It helps manage my feelings.

The life damaging aspects to an addiction or compulsion:

  • It causes personal dysfunction
  • It blocks you from getting your needs met through your own human powers
  • It takes up all your energy
  • Your choices are narrowed
  • Your freedom is lost
  • Your will becomes disabled
  • You become driven to the addiction/ compulsion
  • Your life is powerless & unmanageable

Kinesiology can help you work through these issues in the right priority, at the right time, in a gentle way to restore harmony to the soul.

The focus with Kinseiology is to bring back choice, rather than having a reaction to a situation, responding to it with choice & freedom. There is a reason we call a Kinesiology session a balance. Because it is about finding balance.

John Bradshaw, author of “The Family” states that in the family of an alcoholic,  everyone is driven by the distress of not having their needs met.

So do you think that maybe any addiction is about the distress of not having your needs met?

So as I have done this past weekend, ask yourself, “If I was free of this addiction/ compulsion what would I do?”

Is there anything you are trying to stop yourself from feeling? What are you using to stop the feelings? Is it cigarettes, alcohol, distraction, constant drama in your life, an emotion like anger?

Do you want freedom & choice? Do you want to feel like you have the power to help yourself?

Distraction has been an enormous help for me, but it has gotten to the point where I am relying on it to get me through. That is the recognition for me that it has become unhealthy. It helped me survive, but now it has become something that I am allowing to block my choices & sense of freedom. I am putting all of my sense of self worth into these distractions.

The behavior, the distraction, as I have realized, is the desire for connection, to belong. So whilst I have cleared what I would call the surface level behaviors – the smoking & drinking coke, I still have some work to do in these areas, to maintain a sense of connection with myself. So if I can feel & maintain that connection on the inside, it will reflect to me on the outside. I won’t need to distract from my feelings, because I feel that sense of connection, of belonging, of value, no matter what is happening on the outside. So I guess that is my journey towards emotional resilience.