Jordio Kinesiology – with Jordie Slonim | Melbourne, Australia

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Shame Resilience: My Mother’s Day Experience

 

For me, Mother’s Day reminds me of two things. My feelings towards my own mother and my feelings about not being a mother. This is not the same every year, but this year, these feelings have taken over.

The feelings I get the majority of the time when I am around my mother, or going to be around her are dread, draining, inadequacy, guilt, not belonging, not good enough, disconnection, inauthentic, and deep deep shame. I have done an abundance of work around issues with her. And despite all the work I’ve done, I still feel shame not only with the issues with her, but also shame about the feelings I have. Especially when I have so much empathy with her about her own experiences.

I made a list of the emerging emotions around issues with my mother and issues with not being a mother and they are alarmingly similar! Today, however, I am going to lean towards addressing the experiences in regards to my own mother.

I was on my way to my mother’s house yesterday, walking along, an abundance of negative self talk (about the feelings about my mother), going through my head (I’m an asshole, I’m mean, I’m spoilt, I have no gratitude, I hate myself for feeling like this, I’m ashamed), and desperately wanting to smoke (I quit 4 years ago) or wanting some cake type thing (I still do this!).

So there I am, perpetuating the shame experience by either indulging in, or thinking about undertaking behaviours where I believe I should be isolated – eating crap & smoking. And when I do eat crap now, it is in isolation.

These behaviours don’t align with two of my core values of authenticity & connection.

Instead I want to disconnect – numb and be inauthentic by hiding my way of ‘coping’.

I suddenly remembered some work I’ve been doing in Brene Brown’s Daring Greatly & Rising Strong courses I have been looking at all that I do, say, think, feel & running them through these values – authenticity & connection, my driving forces.

So I came back to authenticity and connection – the resources that help me show up when I lose sight of my way and those shaming thoughts take over.

The only way to pull myself out of the shame I feel is to reconnect with my heart space & my reminder through the day became to shower myself with love & empathy, to love myself even though I feel this way.

From my work in Kinesiology & working with clients, I come back to reminding myself in my more logical moments, that the reaction I am having is an emotional one and that part of my brain has taken the reigns & logic is tied to the back of the horse carriage by a rope, stumbling along, trying to catch up to help steer the carriage. My entire being, in this reactional state, has gone into either a fight mode, fly away mode, freeze – just stop dead in its tracks or fragmentation mode – where I am trying to fight, fly away & freeze all at the same time and my being doesn’t know where its at.

In a kinesiology session, one of the techniques we often work with to help move through this kind of state are subconscious sabotages. We use a combination of tapping and the following phrase (the wording changes with some variables), along with an emotion, to clear whatever obstacle or sabotage our subconscious patterning is putting in the way of us moving forward with an issue:

For Example

In spite of this conflict in attitude about shame around my mother, I deeply and profoundly love, accept, respect and appreciate myself.”

So, along with reconnecting with my values of connection and authenticity, I found the variables, did the technique and released that deep emotional state that took hold……

Then I showered myself in love and empathy. And not in the form of cake either!

I don’t think I’m alone with my feelings about being around my mother and my feelings about not being a mother.

To stay authentic and connected, I am showing up and being seen with this experience.

I am writing this so whoever reads this and can relate with the emotions of the experiences, can know that they are not alone. I have been second guessing about whether to put this out there or not, for several reasons, one of which is that someone I know has lost her mother today. And also, because I look at all the flak people receive in the media for speaking about things like this and it almost stops me.

This time, I won’t let it stop me. The importance of connection and authenticity far outweigh any flak I might receive for any of the content of this article.


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Half Price Kinesiology Sessions For Kinesiology Week: Starting March 14th

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Its National Kinesiology week March 14th – 20th.

To mark this celebration, I am offering a 50%, yes 50% discount to all clients who have their sessions this week.

And, I will be extending this offer until March 24th, just before Easter!!!

So for these 10 days, you can have your session half price.

You may have issues with something physical, mental, emotional, chemical, mental, spiritual or energetic, Kinesiology can help.

Whether you have had Kinesiology with me before, or are totally new to it, this offer applies to you.

50% off whatever you would normally pay!!!

If you want to forward this onto a friend who may be interested, the fee for any new client is usually $120, ($127 in Black Rock)

So they will pay only $60 ($63.50 in Black Rock) for a first session!!!

Hours of operation are Monday – Wednesday & Saturday at Malvern, or Thursdays in Black Rock.

Places will book fast.

The first week in nearly filled already!!!!

You must book & attend your session within this time period from March 14th – March 23rd to receive your discount.

(Only one session per client in this 10 day time period)

And please, forward this offer to your friends & family!!!



I’ll look forward to celebrating the wonders of Kinesiology with you.

Please contact Jordie on 0420 649 611 or via jords367@gmail.com to reserve your session.


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Year of the Monkey, bringing the fun in!

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For about the last 6 weeks in Kinesiology sessions with clients, insights & messages keep flooding in about finding ways to bring more humour to situations or issues in our lives. Things like the energy of mischievous gnomes, thinking of an uplifting song, a funny movie or show, or a comedic memory that may be needed to bring in.

A sense of fun.

These are certainly not meant to undermine any situations or issues, merely to bring an alternate approach.

Then, a few days ago, I read about the energies of the upcoming Chinese New Year – the year of the Monkey.

The Red Fire Monkey is vibrant & playful, light & bright.

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Monkey energy doesn’t hide itself away. Its captivating when allowing itself to be seen. Monkey gives support to speak up.

Ask yourself, are you afraid to be truly seen?

The energy is active & creative & surprises you with the unexpected. It brings vitality & strength. The willingness to play & have fun opens the energy for change.

The shadow of the monkey is gossip, drama, negativity, so be aware & make an effort to remove yourself from these types of energies.

Release the need to control, keep a sense of humour & even if things seem like they’re not working, you may simply be going on an alternate path to get to your destination, a path which may be filled with unexpected opportunities for transformation & growth. You are likely to arrive at the desired outcome or even something better.

Enjoy the journey!!!

Create the energy of your journey.

Use laughter to be constructive, be adventurous, try something new.

Monkeys enjoy community, working together to create, to enjoy.

So how would you like to create your journey for the upcoming Chinese New Year?

What kind of energy would you like to invoke?


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The Magical Worry Box

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During one of my first units in my Diploma of Kinesiology – quite some time ago now, I was introduced to this technique of using a Worry Box.

Dunno who first came up with this technique, but to be honest, it hasn’t come up all that much in the years I have been both practicing Kinesiology & as a client.

But now…to me…it has become… The Magical Worry Box…..

The way it works is, you write down all your worries, individually on slips of paper & place them in the worry box. We then test for how many minutes a day & if there is a specific time of day for you to open this box & look at all the worries inside.

So it may be tested in a Kinesiology session, that you need to work with your worry box, say after dinner, for 10 minutes.

You take each piece of paper out in turn & say one says, “When will I get the vacuuming done?” – you then consider, “Do I want to worry about that?”, if you do, worry, then put it back in the box for tomorrow if you choose, or throw it away. If you find yourself thinking about any of the worries in the box at other times, you need to say to yourself,

Stop, you can deal with that later at your allotted time.”

Your worries may be about absolutely anything – from cleaning the house, to dealing with an illness. From your child going to a party, to issues in your relationship…..anything.

The point is choice. Choosing that these worries do NOT consume your life.

I have been doing this of late to deal with a particular situation where I have been perpetually overthinking, feeling anxious & trying to work something through.

So I decided to utilise this technique of The Magical Worry Box to help me.

Every night at 9:50 PM for 5 minutes, I open my box & look at my worries.

I have discovered several quite interesting things!!

Part of this technique is any time I start thinking about those things during the day, I interrupt myself & say: “Stop Jords, you can deal with that later at your allotted time.”

Now, in simply bringing awareness to every time I am thinking about those things, I am astounded at how much time & energy I am giving to my worries – basically to these things I have absolutely no control over!!!!!!

Say I’m awake for 16 hours in the day on average, I have actually been focusing on these things for about 4-6 hours out of every day.

I was shocked!

Then I stared to think of all the things I could have been thinking about, putting energy into instead!

I actually had to laugh at myself!!!!

The irony is, I get to my worry box, I look at the stuff in it & I’ve realised that it’s actually changed how I feel about it.

In giving myself permission to worry, it has taken the need or the habit of worry away. I have realised, it has almost become a habitual response to something I don’t understand & wish to. Just because I want to understand, does not mean I am going to understand in this way & worrying about it does very little other than taking up a lot of time & energy. I have been giving this situation so much power over me, doing this technique has helped me to start to channel this energy into the things that I want to.

When we interrupt negative thoughts or habitual patterns, or any patterns for that matter, whatever they are about, we start to develop new ways of dealing, new habits, new neural pathways. We design the way we want to live & what we want to focus on, rather than what we have always focused on or the way that we have always focused.

So, I ask you:

Is there anything that you are perpetually worrying about, putting lots of energy into? Would you like to be using that energy in other ways?


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What is Surrogation in a Kinesiology Session?

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Have you ever felt confused by your behaviour or how you are functioning?

Ever thought, “I don’t usually behave this way?” or “Why won’t my left leg work?”

You may be surrogating.

When we hear the word surrogate, we usually think of a woman who has agreed to carry a child in her womb for someone else.

Well it’s a similar concept in a kinesiology, but not quite the same thing.

Like I do most weeks, I had a wonderful practice session with one of my fellow Kinesiologists.

We were working away, and on separate occasions, it turned out I was surrogating, firstly for a family member, and then for her – my fellow Kinesiologist!!! And on top of that, within surrogating for her, one of my organs was also surrogating for another!

So what is surrogation – in terms of a Kinesiology session?

We surrogate, or take on the problems of others for several reasons. Either because we want to help someone or help a situation or because we are avoiding dealing with our own stuff, or we may be too empathetic…..or a combination of the of any of these!!!!

In our practice this time, I was pretty much wanting to avoid my own stuff!

When a person surrogates for another, they usually have something in common, like an emotion or a situation & its like who they are gets confused. So the confusion can become – Who’s problem is it?

Functioning becomes confused.

If I surrogate for a friend who is going through a traumatic time, I can take on her problem & feel her pain as if its my own. I am affected by the process.

So the question becomes, “Am I functioning as myself or someone else?”

You may even surrogate for a group mindset, often to fit in at work or with a group of friends. Like peer pressure.

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We may not just surrogate for others. There may be a part of us that is taking on the issues for another part of us. As an example, one muscle may surrogate for another muscle. It may surrogate for an organ. An acupuncture point may surrogate for another to help in some way. If you fell off your bike onto your knee, the other knee may surrogate for it by compensating to adjust.

In the midst of a Kinesiology session, surrogation is something I test for fairly frequently. And it often shows up, especially for those of you out there who are naturally inclined to want to help.

Do you think you could be surrogating in some way? Maybe trying to deal with stuff that is not your responsibility?

Book in a session & see if you are functioning as yourself, or as someone else. Is this your issue, or someone else’s?

Contact me on 0420 649 611 or at jords367@gmail.com


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Choosing Your Path: The 11:11 Gateway

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As part of a beautiful, uplifting 11:11 Gateway clearing done with my new fellow practitioners at Solar heart Healing House, I set the above cards, crystals & oil to manifest my intention.

In all kinesiology sessions, we work on all aspects of your being – mentally, physically, spiritually, energetically, emotionally, socially, financially etc.

No matter the technique used, we work to peel back the layers to find the root cause, where it is stored or blocked in your body, how it is affecting you, who, if anyone is involved & find what we can do about it. 

Things have felt fairly tumultuous the last few months. It seems a common theme has emerged for myself & people around me. For friends, clients, people I’ve met recently.

It’s been quite a journey.

There have been some common triggers showing up, for clients, friends & myself:

  • not being good enough
  • rejection
  • do I fit in?
  • ambiguity
  • putting others needs ahead of my own
  • being ignored

I have been shown all these triggers, all these things that have pushed my buttons, to show me how I have undervalued myself. By putting myself in situations or around people who don’t appreciate what I bring to the table, I have been setting myself up to constantly be rejected, to be ignored, to show me I wasn’t good enough, that I don’t fit in, that I put other’s needs ahead of mine & I’m inviting people who are ambiguous & unclear.

I have looked deeply into these issues. I have been shown for example, the effect of the lack of clarity from another person. That a person’s words may be clear, but when those words are contradictory to their actions, their body language, the energy they are exuding, and this is their consistent way of interacting with me, the effect on me is that it triggers me to doubt my beautiful, innate intuition & insight. That I am not good enough around this person.

Even amongst all that lack of clarity being thrown at me, I have gained tremendous growth in leaving behind old patterns, habits & even people who cannot appreciate my value.

And in taking responsibility for clearing these patterns for me, it further enhances my growth & the growth of those concerned.

These are the energies of this 11/11 Stargate. To purge ourselves of these old aspects to make way for what will greater serve our purpose in this world. To release limitations placed upon us by ourselves & others & situations we are in.

Kinesiology sessions have helped me & my clients to find & clear our triggers in such a profound way, to show us where & how to grow.

I have been working with these triggers on myself, but I have found it has been quite a dominating theme for my clients as well over the last few months.

We are all transforming. We have needed to release these triggers. Realising that the triggers, patterns & habits that may have shaped us in the past, are no longer serving us. We are opening to walk through this 11:11 gateway of manifestation showing our true authentic selves.. In releasing the dross of our old patterning, we allow ourselves to recalibrate with the flow of energy of our choosing.

I am here to connect. I facilitate connection. Connecting myself & others, others with others, people with aspects of themselves or places or situations to allow themselves to grow fully into their true essence.

This is how I choose to walk through the 11:11 Gateway. Expanding my gift of facilitating connections.

How do you choose to recalibrate yourself?

With what intention would you like to walk through this Gateway of 11:11?

 


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Get Outta Your Head!!!

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So who else, aside from me, has had a whole lotta over thinking going on?!!!

There has been so much moving & shaking lately.

It’s been a massive roller coaster ride over the last couple of months, with many things being triggered, lots & lots of grief coming up (and I don’t just mean grief as in a person dying). It has been less than easy to navigate.

At a beautiful spot in Belgrave, someone imparted a lovely technique you all may find useful. It takes all of about 10-20 seconds.

I have been using this every time I feel myself getting caught up in my thoughts & any issues of this human life.

Picture yourself in space.

Picture your feet fading….

Your legs fading….

Your torso & pelvis fading….

Your arms fading…

Your head fading…

Your thoughts, faded…..

You are the Universe.

Even typing that now helped my to feel relief.

Try it, see if it helps.

By the way, there have been times I have had to do it every few minutes.

This is a way to retrain your brain to interrupt those times when we get too caught up in thoughts & issues.

I’d love to hear how you go with it

Love & light beautiful people xxx

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